Are you a good listener? Many people are too caught up with themselves to be good listeners. Effective listening requires much more than just listening to the words. Have you ever experienced that you were thinking “Please listen to me!” when you had a conversation with someone? A businessman told me recently that he had […]
The Power of Expectations
You get what you focus on. You attract what you expect, so what are you expecting to attract in this moment? What are your dominating thoughts? What do you choose to focus on? Notice the word choose, because we do have a choice. We cannot choose the weather, but we can choose how we react […]
Habits
Our behaviour is a result of habits and imagination. Habits are very powerful. Good habits serve us well, but bad habits can destroy our lives. If we are unhappy about some of our habits we can change them. A bad habit is changed by replacing it with a new habit. Aristotle said that “We are […]
The Power of Imagination
We think in pictures! If I say ‘tiger’, what happens? Do you see the word or the animal? I have asked my blind friend if he thinks in pictures. At first he was very surprised when I asked him. He then confirmed that he really did think in pictures. How can this knowledge be useful? […]
Connecting
CONNECTING The quality of your life improves when you are good at connecting with people. If you are not successful at doing it, is it something you can learn? Yes, you can learn to connect with people in about 90 seconds or less. It is a skill, and that can be taught to everybody. We […]
Motivation
What is motivation? It is that which provides the inner urge to action. We can motivate our self, and we can motivate others. Achievers are successful because they have an inner drive for excellence. Our attitude is an emotion, and we use emotions to send messages. If something does not appeal to us, we let […]
Success Ratio
Are you aware of how many moments we experience every day? It probably amounts to several thousands. How do you use them? Do you fill them with positive emotions? Very often we focus on what is wrong and tell people what they do is wrong instead of patting them on the back for what they […]
Questions and Thoughts
You may many times have heard that you can bring about the best in your life by thinking and focusing on what makes you happy. An old saying “As a man thinks, so he is” is very true. You may not have focused on the importance of questions and how the quality of the questions […]
Emotional Intelligence
Some people who did very well at school fail in life while others who did poorly on academic tests turn out to be very successful later in life. We move in the direction of our thoughts. Expressions such as “I can, I am” are much more important than IQ. What is the definition of emotional […]
Happiness
If you look around for definitions on happiness, you get many different versions. Everybody wants to be happy and search for happiness. Here are some expressions about happiness: Happiness is the feeling you are feeling when you want to keep on feeling it (H. Fosdick). Elbert Hubbard says that happiness is a habit – cultivate […]