A lot of people set out full of good intention on New Year’s Day. But then the rest of your life takes over: The work on your desk piles up, the family keeps on growing and changing and needing more of you. What happened to your goals? Is it hard to stick to your plans? Do you remember to set time aside for health and recreation? A speaker talked about how difficult it often had been for her to say no and to make sure that she took time out for herself. She finally found a nice way of saying no to do things when she had scheduled time for self. She would say, “Thank you for the offer – but I have another commitment on that day.” When we express ourselves this way, we appreciate being asked, and we can even make it better by making use of “because”. You could say: “Thank you for your offer. Unfortunately, I am unable to do it, because I have another commitment.” When you use ‘because’, you increase your chance for sympathy and agreement even if you do not specify the reason.
When problems occur that may disturb the direction you want to take in life, stop and ask yourself: “What can I do to get the best out of this situation here and now?” Another question you can ask yourself to ensure you are on the right track of pursuing your goal: “Is the task I am doing just now the very best way to spend my time? Will it improve the life for me and others, now and in the future? What I am doing right now – is that bringing me closer to what I want to achieve?”
If you for example have chosen to release a bit of weight, be careful how you think and phrase that you are releasing weight. One speaker I heard talked about slimming and pointed out, that if you used affirmation and said “I am slim and tender”, the command to be sent to the subconscious mind would get resistance. A better way to phrase it would be: “I will from this day take the action to be fit and slim.” If the task (such as releasing weight) seems overwhelming, then just remember that if you release little by little and do this often, soon that little will become great.
Do you now and again feel that you are not really living life? That is not necessary – life is filled with great moments. Just pay attention to them and enjoy them. After a walk where you experienced something really nice or seen a wonderful movie, write it on a piece of paper. Collect the papers with the wonderful experiences in a box or a glass jar where you can see the amount of happy events grow. You may be surprised how many times you write about events that made you feel fantastic. The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
Dream what you want to dream – go where you want to go, be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do. Nothing is going to be, unless we DO! To deal with stress, remember to breathe, relax and have fun. You can make use of what Ghandi said: “I am always on vacation.” I found a little note in a book where it said: “I commit myself to think positive thoughts only the whole day!”
Make it a terrific year and remember it is free to laugh (great for health, – no side effect).